In 18 days, we will be celebrating our one year anniversary, where did the time go! As I reminisced about the wedding day, the vows we wrote, the guests, the decor, the food, the most important thing that stood out to me was the emotions that flooded my heart on that very day.
There are a few events in life that women yearn for and a glamorous wedding is nothing short of our wishes. However, in an attempt to capture this fairy tale ideology, women at times lose their focus from the marriage to just the wedding. The wedding is just a one day celebration, the marriage is for a lifetime; confusing the two will only cause havoc in your relationship.
I decided to plan my entire wedding with no assistance, not because I did not need people, but simply because I couldn't deal with the different opinions that were sure to put us in debt.
Weddings are a huge business for any market, thus their prices are always inflated. Do not spend your money trying to outdo someone else, or just to make it look expensive. Expensive doesn't mean nice, neither does it mean that you actually will be happy that day. Really and truly the most important thing is how you feel on that day, which requires advance mental preparation. Truth is I did indulge on some things that I did not even notice on the wedding day, thanx to my pictures I was able to admire them later. There are so many things you can do without.
Having a wedding on credit cards, loans or using all of your money is not advisable. You then spend all your time working to pay off the debt. Have a modest wedding. Save the money. Invest in something worthwhile because after the wedding, and even before the honeymoon is over, life gets real!
Do what you can afford and what makes you both happy, because outsiders will never be satisfied with what you consider your best.
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